Counselling Program
Pre Marriage Counselling
Congratulations on taking this significant step towards a lifetime of love and partnership! As you prepare to embark on this journey together, it’s essential to lay a strong foundation for your marriage—one built on communication, understanding, and mutual respect. That’s where pre-marriage counselling comes in.
Pre-marriage counselling is a proactive and invaluable opportunity for couples to explore their relationship dynamics, address potential challenges, and strengthen their bond before tying the knot. Led by experienced counsellors, these sessions provide a safe and supportive space for couples to discuss important topics, such as communication styles, conflict resolution strategies, financial management, and future goals.
Marriage is a beautiful journey, but it also comes with its fair share of ups and downs. Pre-marriage counselling equips couples with the tools and insights they need to navigate these challenges effectively. By addressing potential areas of conflict early on and learning healthy communication and problem-solving skills, couples can establish a solid foundation for a resilient and fulfilling marriage.
During pre-marriage counselling sessions, couples can expect to engage in open and honest conversations about various aspects of their relationship. These discussions may include:
Exploring Shared Values and Goals: Understanding each other’s values, beliefs, and aspirations lays the groundwork for a harmonious partnership.
Effective Communication Skills: Learning how to communicate openly, actively listen, and express thoughts and feelings constructively is crucial for resolving conflicts and deepening emotional intimacy.
Conflict Resolution Strategies: Every relationship encounters disagreements, but knowing how to navigate them respectfully and constructively is key to maintaining harmony and connection.
Financial Planning: Managing finances is a common source of stress in marriages. Pre-marriage counselling can help couples develop a shared understanding of their financial goals and create a plan for budgeting, saving, and spending.
Intimacy and Connection: Cultivating emotional, physical, and spiritual intimacy is essential for fostering a strong and lasting bond.
Investing in pre-marriage counselling offers numerous benefits for couples, including:
- Strengthening communication and conflict resolution skills
- Building trust, empathy, and understanding
- Enhancing emotional intimacy and connection
- Identifying and addressing potential areas of conflict before they escalate
- Establishing realistic expectations for marriage
- Creating a solid foundation for a happy and fulfilling partnership
As you prepare to say “I do,” consider investing in pre-marriage counselling to ensure that your relationship is equipped to weather life’s joys and challenges together. At i-nine counselling, our experienced counsellors are here to support you every step of the way as you lay the groundwork for a lifetime of love, growth, and happiness.
Take the first step towards a strong and resilient marriage. Contact us today to learn more about our pre-marriage counselling services and begin your journey towards a fulfilling partnership.
Post-Marriage Counselling
Congratulations on your journey as a married couple! While marriage is a beautiful union, it also comes with its own set of challenges. At [Your Counseling Center], we’re here to support you every step of the way with our specialized post-marriage counseling services.
Post-marriage counseling is a valuable resource designed to help couples navigate the complexities of married life and strengthen their bond. Led by experienced counselors, these sessions provide a safe and supportive space for couples to address issues, enhance communication, and deepen their connection.
Our approach to post-marriage counseling is grounded in empathy, respect, and collaboration. We work closely with each couple to understand their unique needs and challenges, tailoring our approach to suit their specific circumstances. Whether you’re facing conflicts, adjusting to life transitions, or simply seeking to enrich your relationship, we’re here to provide guidance and support every step of the way.
During post-marriage counseling sessions, couples have the opportunity to explore a wide range of topics, including:
- Effective communication skills
- Conflict resolution strategies
- Managing life transitions
- Nurturing emotional intimacy
- Building trust and mutual respect
- Balancing individual needs within the relationship
- Strengthening shared goals and values
- Addressing financial concerns
- Coping with stress and external pressures
Cultivating a fulfilling partnership
Investing in post-marriage counseling offers numerous benefits for couples, including:
- Improved communication and conflict resolution skills
- Enhanced emotional intimacy and connection
- Greater understanding and empathy towards each other
- Increased resilience and ability to navigate challenges together
- Strengthened bond and sense of partnership
- Tools and strategies for maintaining a healthy and fulfilling relationship long-term
Your marriage is worth investing in, and post-marriage counseling can help you build a stronger, more resilient bond with your partner. If you’re ready to take the next step towards a happier and healthier relationship, we invite you to contact us today to schedule a consultation. Together, we’ll work towards creating a future filled with love, understanding, and mutual support.
Family Counselling
Each family member’s view of the situation and their needs are discussed. Unhelpful and helpful patterns of interaction are identified. The counsellor helps the family work towards common goals. The family is a system of which each individual member is a part of. Therefore an individual’s behavior is influenced by how the family functions. The counsellor helps family members communicate with one other effectively, develop skills to resolve issues faced and enhance their relationships with each other.
Research findings support the effectiveness of family counselling. Since the family is a system, change is best facilitated by working with the family as a whole. Neither the individual nor the family is blamed for any problem. Families are helped to recognize systemic factors that contribute to a particular problem. They can then participate in finding solutions.
Relationship counselling is the process of counseling the parties of a human relationship in an effort to recognize, and to better manage or reconcile, troublesome differences and repeating patterns of stress upon the relationship. The relationship involved may be between members of a family or a couple, employees or employers in a workplace, or between a professional and a client.
Benefits of Relationship Counselling :
- Provide a confidential dialogue, which normalizes feelings
- To enable each person to be heard and to hear themselves
- Provide a mirror with expertise to reflect the relationship’s difficulties and the potential and direction for change
- Empower the relationship to take control of its own destiny and make vital decisions
Deliver relevant and appropriate information - Changes the view of the relationship
Improve communication - To identify the repetitive, negative interaction cycle as a pattern.
- To understand the source of reactive emotions that drive the pattern.
- To expand and re-organize key emotional responses in the relationship.
To facilitate a shift in partners’ interaction to new patterns of interaction. - To create new and positively bonding emotional events in the relationship
To foster a secure attachment between partners. - To help maintain a sense of intimacy.
When parents want to have the intelligence of their child determined, often it’s because the child appears to have a very low or a very high intelligence. For all other cases, the regular school exams and progress tests will usually suffice.
As an IQ test for children is only necessary in special circumstances, the interests of the persons involved tend to be larger. Does the child require special education? Is the child highly gifted and is remedial teaching needed? This type of findings can have far-reaching consequences.
You still want to know about your child’s intelligence?
Of course there are easier ways to get to a better understanding of a child’s intelligence than taking a comprehensive IQ test for children. You can try to asses how easily (and quickly) a child solves logical problems or perceives similarities between different situations. This can provide strong indications, even though it is not standardized and objective.
What is an adolescence counselling?
s your Adolescence struggling in school? Feeling stressed out? Facing difficulties with friends? Causing tension at home? Unsure of what to do after high school? A trained adolescent counsellor helps an Adolescent by providing individual counseling in the following domains:
- Personal/Social development
- Academic development
- Career development
The primary goal of Adolescent Counselling is to reduce barriers in academic performance. Barriers to academic success come in many shapes and sizes. Whether it is reducing anxiety, working on study skills, developing healthy friendships, facing problems in the home, setting goals or addressing bullying (to name a few), counselling provides a safe and confidential environment to speak with a caring professional counsellor who can support his or her development.
How can an adolescent counsellor help?
Through one-on-one counselling adolescents have the opportunity to explore their feelings, aspirations, and personal development in the following areas:
Personal & Social:
Adolescent will develop strong foundations for personal and social growth.
Examples:
- Stress management
- Acquire self-knowledge (values, attitudes, beliefs)
- Increase self-awareness
- Develop interpersonal skills
- Learn how to make and keep friends
- Communication skills (with parents, adults, peers)
- Coping with peer pressure
Academic:
Adolescents will learn to implement strategies and activities to support and maximize their ability to learn.
Examples:
- Goal setting
- Improving academic self-concept
- Acquiring study skills for improved learning
- Motivational techniques to achieve individual potential
- Learn to balance studies, extra-curricular activities, leisure, family, etc.
Career:
Adolescent will develop skills, attitudes, and knowledge that will enable them to make a successful transition from school to the world or work, and from job to job across their lifespan.
Examples:
- Develop career awareness
- Employment-readiness skills (resume, interview skills, etc)
- Acquire career information
- Identify career goals
- Better understanding of personal interests and abilities
Similar to adult counselling, Adolescent counselling allows to feel heard, understood, and accepted in a safe, non-threatening, objective and confidential environment.
There are many different reasons why a student may want help from the counselling service. You don’t need to fully understand what is causing the difficulty in order to make an appointment, and the nature of the problem might become more clear during the initial assessment / first meeting.
I-NINE can offer you a space to talk and think about problems and difficulties, and many people find it helpful to be able to do this with someone who is not a friend or family member. Counsellors are not the same as doctors and psychiatrists, and cannot prescribe medication. Counselling is not about giving advice, but can help you understand difficulties. I-NINE can work with you to help you make decisions and changes that may work better for you.
Some of the difficulties that students often raise include:
- problems with anxiety and stress; social anxiety;
- depression; loneliness;
- adjusting to a new culture; homesickness;
- problems with family, friends or intimate relationships;
- bereavement and loss;
- study problems, including difficulties with writing, speaking and putting things off (procrastination) and perfectionism;
- racism and harassment;
- sexual abuse; coping with trauma; sexual harassment;
- disability;
- feeling suicidal;
- eating disorders;
- addictions, including alcohol, drugs and gambling.
There may be other problems that you wish to discuss that are not included in this short list.
Your Career Development is a lifelong process that, whether you know it or not, actually started when you were born! There are a number of factors that influence your career development, including your interests, abilities, values, personality, background, and circumstances. Career Counselling is a process that will help you to know and understand yourself and the world of work in order to make Career, Educational and Life decisions.
Career Development is more than just deciding on a major and what job you want to get when you graduate, it really is a lifelong process, meaning that throughout your life you will change, situations will change and you will continually have to make career and life decisions. The goal of I-NINE is to not only help you make the decisions you need to make now, but to give you the knowledge and skills you need to make future career and life decisions.
What can I expect ?
Your Career Counsellor will:
- Help you figure out who you are and what you want out of your education, your career, and your life.
- Be someone for you to talk to about your thoughts, ideas, feelings and concerns about your career and educational choices, who will help you sort out, organize, and make sense of your thoughts and feelings.
- Help you identify the factors influencing your career development, and help you assess your interests, abilities, and values.
- Help you locate resources and sources of career information.
- Help you to determine next steps and develop a plan to achieve your goals.
Who needs Career Counselling?
Since Career Development is a lifelong process, Career Counselling can be appropriate for anyone, including freshers, juniors, seniors, and even alumni. The earlier you get started making intentional decisions about your future, the better prepared you will be!
Below are some examples of concerns that bring students to Career Counselling:
Exploring Career and Major Options
- “I have no idea what I want to do with my life.”
- “I don’t know what to major in.”
- “I’ve narrowed it down to a couple career options, but I’m having a hard time choosing between them.”
- “I know what I want to major in, but I have no idea what I want to do once I graduate.”
- “I know what I want to do, but I’m not sure what the best major would be.
- “I want to know what kinds of jobs I can get with my major.”
- “I don’t feel like I know enough about all the different careers out there to know what I want to do.”
Resolving Conflicts
- “I like a lot of different subjects, and I keep changing my major because I’m not sure which one is the best for me!”
- “I don’t like any of my classes and none of the majors seem really appealing to me.”
- “I have a lot of work experience and I want to find a new career path that will build on the skills I already have.”
- “I was planning on going into the _______ program, but I applied and didn’t get in. What do I do now?”
- “I always thought I wanted to be a _______, but I got into my major and I really don’t like it!”
- “I really like my major, but it’s not what I want to do for my career.”
- “I know what type of work I’d like to do, but I’m afraid I won’t be able to make enough money doing it.”
- “My family really wants me to be a _______, but I’m not sure if that’s really what I want.”
- “I’ve always planned on being a _______, but I’m wondering if it’s only because that’s all I know.”
- “I want to find a field to go into where there will always be plenty of jobs.”
- “I want to find a career that will allow me to provide significant financial support for my family.”
- “I’m working towards my career, but I think I might just really want to be a stay-at-home parent.”
- “I’ve always planned to stay in Boise, but to do what I’d like to do I’d have to move.”
- “I can’t find a job, so I’m thinking about going to grad school.”
What does Individual Counselling involve?
- Paying attention to yourself: I-NINE is about paying attention to yourself by discussing your thoughts and feelings about any area of your life that you may wish to explore and understand better in a safe and confidential setting.
- A collaborative relationship with a professionally trained counsellor: Your counsellor listens and seeks to understand your point of view, drawing from various counselling psychology theories and techniques, to facilitate a process that helps you gain clarity and look at the issue from different perspectives. Your counselor helps you work towards your goals by forming a genuine, accepting and collaborative relationship with you. Successful counselling requires you to take responsibility for change in your life.
- Finding your own answers: You are the expert in your own life. Your counsellor helps you discover your own answers instead of giving ready-made solutions or advice.
Benefits of Individual Counselling
After counselling, people have shared that they “feel lighter”, “gain clarity”, “learn more about themselves and others”, “feel less stuck or overwhelmed”, “feel energized”, “feel good, positive and hopeful”, “take decisions and actions”, “see positive changes”, “improve relationships” and so on. Numerous research studies have also found counselling in general to be effective.
- Understanding emotions and feeling comfortable: Bottled up or unexpressed emotions can become more intense and confusing. Talking about these emotions freely helps you come to terms with them and feel more comfortable and ready to take action.
- Neutrality and objectivity: Compared to family or friends, talking to a counsellor brings in objectivity and helps you explore different perspectives. A counsellor does not impose his or her values or beliefs on you, instead focusing on your own.
- Increased self-awareness: A warm understanding relationship helps you accept yourself more fully and be true to yourself. This results in more self-aware and informed decisions and actions on your part.
Discuss and explore any area of your life with a counsellor. The number of sessions depends on the area you wish to address and your goals.
Group counselling is a highly effective means of addressing personal concerns – in fact it has been proven to be equally as effective as individual therapy, and in some cases more effective. Group counselling that are often offered are focused on a particular subject or skill while others are more general in nature. The more general groups (named “understanding self and others”) in nature are particularly beneficial if you:
- Are concerned about how you relate to other people
- Feel isolated, depressed or anxious
- Experience discomfort in social situations
- Lack intimacy in relationships
- Have family of origin difficulties
- Are dissatisfied with your friendships or romantic relationships
- Struggle with low self-esteem and/or low self-confidence
Stress is a normal psychological and physical reaction to the demands of life. A small amount of stress can be good, motivating you to perform well. But multiple challenges daily, such as sitting in traffic, meeting deadlines and paying bills, can push you beyond your ability to cope.
Your brain comes hard-wired with an alarm system for your protection. When your brain perceives a threat, it signals your body to release a burst of hormones that increase your heart rate and raise your blood pressure. This “fight-or-flight” response fuels you to deal with the threat.
Once the threat is gone, your body is meant to return to a normal, relaxed state. Unfortunately, the nonstop complications of modern life mean that some people’s alarm systems rarely shut off.
Stress management gives you a range of tools to reset your alarm system. It can help your mind and body adapt (resilience). Without it, your body might always be on high alert. Over time, chronic stress can lead to serious health problems.
Don’t wait until stress damages your health, relationships or quality of life. Start practicing stress management techniques today.
Depression Management
There are a number of different psychotherapies for depression which are provided to individuals or groups by psychotherapists, psychiatrists, psychologists, clinical social workers, counselors or psychiatric nurses. With more chronic forms of depression, the most effective treatment is often considered to be a combination of medication and psychotherapy.
The most studied form of psychotherapy for depression is cognitive behavioral therapy (CBT), thought to work by teaching clients to learn a set of cognitive and behavioral skills, which they can employ on their own.
Psychotherapy is a general term for treating depression by talking about your condition and related issues with a mental health professional. Psychotherapy is also known as talk therapy or psychological therapy.
Anxiety Management
Every day that you struggle with anxiety is a day that you’re managing it. Managing anxiety is simply the act of preventing anxiety from overwhelming you. No matter how difficult it may be to live with anxiety or how much you struggle with it every day, you are coping with it in small ways, you may not realize it and certainly coping with it may not be enough but anxiety management is simply the ability to learn to live with your anxiety and still function as best you can.
Yet anxiety can also be managed better. Ideally, you want to make sure that you can live with your anxiety every day and that your anxiety doesn’t hold you back from achieving your goals, that’s why anxiety management tips are so valuable. These tips are specifically designed to teach you how to manage your anxiety better so that it doesn’t hold you back from being the person you want to be.
What is the Difference Between Managing Anxiety and Curing Anxiety?
It’s here where we see the clear difference between managing anxiety and curing anxiety. Managing anxiety is when you still have anxiety, but you’ve learned to control it. Curing anxiety is when you simply do not suffer from anxiety disorders anymore. You may still have anxiety when faced with an anxious situation, but you no longer suffer from anxiety attacks or live with unprompted anxiety every day.
Ideally, you want to cure your anxiety. Managing anxiety is great, but your mind and body are still struggling with it and over time that stress can still cause you more problems, even if your anxiety is fully managed. But curing anxiety takes time, dedication, and smart treatment choices. Until you’re ready to commit to an effective long term treatment that can ultimately help you prevent future anxiety, then managing anxiety is the next best thing.
The Truth About Anxiety Management
The most important thing to realize about anxiety management is that, even though there are many techniques to help you manage your anxiety, your own mental coping skill is still your strongest tool. Everyone – no matter how much anxiety you experience – has that coping skill inside them. It’s like a muscle, and you can train it to help you overcome anxiety and reduce its effects on you.
But you can also make it weaker by using unhealthy anxiety management practices.
For example:
- Alcohol
- Drugs
- Overusing medications
- Gambling
- Reckless behaviors
These are always unhealthy, but they’re especially damaging when you’re trying to manage anxiety. That’s because they become crutches that essentially tell your brain that it doesn’t need to practice its coping skills, because you have something else dulling the anxiety for you.
Your mind and body adapt when outside forces require it to do less work. It’s the reason that steroid use in athletes is so dangerous. Take too many steroids, and your body will simply produce less, because it doesn’t think it needs to do any work for them anymore.
It’s the same with anxiety and stress. If you’re often anxious and you turn to unhealthy coping mechanisms, then your mind will simply expect that these coping mechanisms will do all the work and you’ll lose your ability to cope naturally even more. So while you should always refrain from heavy drinking, drugs, etc., it’s especially important when you live with anxiety.